Tag Archives: Rape

He . . . A blog by Sam

It was 1995. I was 14. I met him in Meadowhall, he called out to me and said I was beautiful. I was flattered as he was older. If an older man thought I was attractive, then I must be pretty cool, right?

He caught my hand as I walked past him and his friends, pulling me towards him. I blushed and looked at the floor. He called me gorgeous and said all the things that men in movies say to women.

He asked for my number and I got flustered, I told him I was 14 and he couldn’t call my house as I’d get in bother with my mum and so he gave me his and told me to phone him.

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Gender-Based Violence Command Centre wins Best Technology Innovation world award

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Pretoria, November 5, 2015 – The Department of Social Development’s Gender-Based Violence Command Centre (GBVCC) – a 24-hour call centre dedicated to providing support and counselling to victims of gender based violence – has been named the Best Technology Innovation – Small Centre of the world at the Global Best Contact Centre Awards in Las Vegas on November 5.

As the Gold Medal Winner, this means the GBVCC is ranked number one in the world in its category.

This adds to three other highly acclaimed service awards the GBVCC has won since its launch in March 2014 – the Innovation Award in the Contact Centre Management Group (CCMG) awards, the Changing Lives Award in the Africom Awards, as well as the Golden Award won in the Technological Innovation Awards in London.

Minister for Social Development, Ms Bathabile Dlamini, says the international recognition of the GBVCC communicates the South African government’s commitment to fighting gender-based violence to the rest of the world and places the country at the lead of international best practice against gender-based violence.

“We launched the Command Centre as part of our service delivery improvement programme aimed at responding quicker, more effectively and innovatively to social challenges in the country, Project Mikondzo. Being recognised for best technology innovation in the world confirms that we are on the right track and it inspires us to work even harder to find inventive ways of responding effectively to the social challenges in the country.

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“The award comes just a few weeks before we launch the 16 Days of Activism for No Violence Against Women and Children 2015 Campaign and emboldens us to work harder to eradicate violence against women and children. We express our thanks to the organisations who have partnered with us in making this project a reality,” said Minister Dlamini.

The GBVCC uses mobile technology to estimate the location of a victim, assign the closest social worker in the field to the case, and record and receive continuous feedback on the case. When a caller contacts the GBVCC from a mobile phone, they are (with explicit permission) geographically located, enabling the Centre to determine the resources nearest to the caller, whether it be a social worker, a police station, a hospital or safe house. In this way, help is dispatched in quick fashion.

The toll free number to call to speak to a social worker for assistance and counselling is 0800 428 428 (0800 GBV GBV). Callers can also request a social worker from the Command Centre to contact them by dialling *120*7867# (free) from any cell phone.

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The GBVCC emanated from the work of the Inter-Ministerial Committee (IMC) on the Root Causes of Violence Against Women and Children – chaired by Minister Dlamini.

The IMC was established by President Jacob Zuma in May 2012 to reinforce political leadership and accountability in the national prevention and response to the rising figures of sexual violence in our country.

The membership of the IMC comprises of the Ministers of Justice and Constitutional Development; Women; Home Affairs; Police and Basic Education. Through the GBVCC, the work of this Committee is certainly contributing towards the improvement of the country response to and prevention of sexual violence.

Media inquiries: Lumka Oliphant on 083 484 8067 or lumkao@dsd.gov.za

Valencia Farmer . . . We will not forget you!

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If you click on the “About Us” tab on our website, you will see that Women Demand Dignity was started as a result of a brutal attack on Alison Saayman who was nearly killed in her home in Observatory, Cape Town; it was also the year that 19-year old Valencia Farmer was gang raped and left for dead, living long enough to name her murderers.

Valencia Farmer was 14 when she was raped in an abandoned house in Eucalyptus Street, Eersterivier, in June 1999. She was repeatedly stabbed and her throat was slit.

She crawled into the street where a neighbour found her. She died in Tygerberg Hospital, but was able to tell police who her attackers were.

Picture of Valencia Farmer’s naked bleeding body will stay with me forever http://www.news24.com/SouthAfrica/News/Picture-of-Valencias-naked-bleeding-body-will-stay-with-me-forever-20150915

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New arrest in 16-year old murder – a surprise for victim’s mom


The questions currently being asked are:

• Who will support the mother emotionally while she is suffering secondary trauma all over again?
• What sort of financial compensation will this traumatised mother receive during this time and afterwards?
• Where will the emotional and financial support come from?
• How will our justice system deal with this case? Will the perpetrators receive life sentences?
• Where are all the activists who made their voices heard 16 years ago? What are they saying/doing today?

What are your thoughts?

Do let us know . . .

Christmas and New Year blessings . . .

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To all our loyal followers:

Thank you for visiting our site throughout the year. We trust that you have found the posts to be useful and informative.

If you want us to continue with this website in 2015, please write to us and let us know what you would like to see in 2015. We would like to share information of interest to you so you need to tell us what it is you are looking for.

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Christmas blessings from above,
Fills our hearts this day,
As we focus on the Christmas message
And the wonder it conveys

It gives us reason to praise God
For all that He has done
And for all that He is yet to do
In those who trust His Son

So this Christmas time, thank the Lord
For the precious gift He gave
And for loved ones who help create
The memories that are made.
© By M.S.Lowndes

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Too costly to ignore – a KPMG report about violence against women in South Africa


It is well documented that South Africa has one of the highest rates of gender-based violence (GBV) in the world. But until now what has been less well documented is the economic cost to society of these horrific and unacceptable levels of violence.

We see the human cost of gender-based violence every day, but having a calculation of the national economic cost will serve as an important tool in our policy and advocacy efforts to end the suffering and injustice of this violence on a national level.

We now know that, using a conservative estimate, gender-based violence costs South Africa between R28.4 billion and R42.4 billion per year – or between 0.9 percent and 1.3 percent of GDP annually.

This report therefore represents an important contribution to the fight against gender-based violence in South Africa.

Too costly to ignore-Violence against women in SA_Report by KPMG 2014

What about the Children?


Newspaper headline: “Grade R girl in rape shock at school”

• Tests confirm girl aged 5, was penetrated, allegedly by three Grade 2 boys on school grounds
• Victim’s parents were only told of the alleged incident a week after it happened
• Boys forced her to take off her underwear and raped her
• The boys (Grade 2) told her they were going to kill her if she reported them, but she told her teacher the next day. She did not tell her parents

I am struggling to understand:-

• What do boys aged 7 or 8 know about erections and sex? Where has this behaviour been learnt?
• Has this behaviour been learnt through own experience or is this acting out what they have observed being done to someone else?
• What led to them learning this behaviour?
• This was not just a group of Grade 2 boys exploring or engaging in sexual play. Where did they even get the idea of three boys, as a group, violating another child like this?

According to South African law, a child under the age of 10 does not have criminal capacity and cannot be arrested. The child would be referred to the Children’s Court.

In another incident . . .

Newspaper headline: “Child 9, raped and burnt in January dies after dad’s 2 month ward virgil”

• She was raped, set alight while still alive with the intention to kill her on January 18, 2014 but after being found in a bush along a major highway the next day severely burnt, managed to tell residents she recognised the man who had raped her and that he laughed as he set her alight saying “you will never be able to identify me”.

In yet another incident . . .

“Khayelitsha community still in shock following the brutal rape of a 55 year old woman last week by her 25 year old son and his friends”.

What has become of our society? Where have we gone wrong in raising our sons?

Why rape is not reported

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A non-governmental organisation in Cape Town, Western Cape recently conducted a survey to find out the main reasons for survivors not reporting rape (https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/RTDK9JL).

The result of that survey was as follows (in the order of most common reason to least common reason given)

1. They are scared of the process of reporting and going to court
2. They are scared of what the rapist might do
3. They don’t want people to find out
4. They don’t think the case will be successful
5. They wrongly feel they are partly to blame
6. The don’t know that what happened to them was rape
7. They don’t know how to report rape
Source: Rape Crisis survey on Facebook, January 2014

In all of the above reasons given for not reporting rape, what can we do to help?

• What can we do to make things less scary?

• How can we encourage reporting even though conviction rates are not guaranteed?

• What can we do to convince survivors they are not to blame for what happened – not even partially to blame?

• Definition of rape – defining what constitutes rape is not enough. How do we convince men and women that rape is not only perpetrated by strangers? i.e. you could be raped by your husband/boyfriend/colleague/friend.

Announcement: The Demand Justice Campaign

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Rape Crisis is embarking on a global campaign to DEMAND JUSTICE for people affected by Gender and Prejudice-based violence.

Given the vital role of Rape Crisis, we would love for you to participate in the campaign and share your knowledge and experiences of Justice system strengths and shortcomings so that it receives attention on global platforms for discourse.

We especially want to bring to attention the challenges victims and survivors face within communities and with a justice system that continues to fail them, through poor service when reporting crimes to lengthy trials, and missing dockets .

If you would like to participate in the campaign, please contact:

Rape Crisis is now on MixIt

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Here is the link to Rape Crisis MixIt application.


Please pass the message on to those who might need this service.