Monthly Archives: September 2014

Dear Grandpa . . .

Girl holding teddy

Today when I come home from school I don’t want you to call me to your bedroom pretending to want to ask me something when all you want to do is push your hands up my dress and into my panty.

When I try to “run away” from you, by going into the kitchen (which I think is a safe space), I don’t want you to push me against the fridge and kiss me so hard my teeth hurt and then still force your tongue into my mouth. It is so disgusting.

While using your body to keep me stuck between the fridge and your body with your mouth covering mine, I am powerless to stop you from pushing your other hand under my dress and into my panty and forcefully pushing your finger into my vagina. That really hurts. I usually hurt for days afterwards.

Forgiveness doesnt excuse behaviourpg

While grandma is cooking in the kitchen and you lure me into your bedroom, please don’t try to force me to lie on the bed so you can take pleasure in sticking your hand into my panty and your finger into my vagina – forcefully stopping me from screaming by keeping my mouth closed.

I really wish I did not have to look over my shoulder all the time when I’m at your house. I really wish I did not have to fear being left alone with you at any time.

You know that my disability makes it physically difficult to fight you because you are so much stronger than I am.

You know that your secret is safe with me because I’m too scared to tell my mom and dad because they would never believe me (especially my dad because you are his dad). They would probably just say I must have done something to make you do this to me.

All I want is for you to love me like a grandpa should love his grand-daughter.

From: Your loving 9-year old grand-daughter
True story

Rape Accused “was celibate”


This was the headline of an article in a local newspaper (The Witness, 10 September 2014, pg 2) this week. I could not believe what I read in this article. See article here: Rape Accused was Celibate 10.09.2014

The article spoke of a teenager in bed with a couple (husband and wife). The couple had taken a vow of celibacy and saw nothing wrong with sharing their bed with a teenage girl. The reason for taking the teenager into their bed (the woman said) was because the teenager was not feeling well (she had a headache) and she was feeling lonely because she had nobody to talk to.

Am I the only one who thinks this whole situation sounds a bit ridiculous?

The article went on to say:
• The wife found nothing wrong with having the teenager in the same bed with her and her husband because children are always allowed in their parents’ bed when they are ill.
• The wife also said the couple had taken a vow of celibacy as a couple, so they were in the same spiritual frame of mind and he could not break spiritual laws.
• The wife said “the girl was beautiful but had showed too much flesh” at her husband’s birthday party earlier that evening. The wife continued to say the teenager told her husband that he was her favourite relative while holding on to him during the party that same evening.

I don’t know about you, but there is something very wrong with this story. What do you think?